Seven Year itch

The most sweet and wonderful part of life is during the time your marriage gets fixed until the initial years of marriage.(Don't ask me after inital years..hehehe). Me and my husband were talking to a mutual friend of ours and during the course of our talk i said " Smile always. You never know who will fall in love with your smile". The freind asked "So did you fall in love with your husband?" . I said "He used to smile a lot in the initial period of our togetherness.Now he smiles rarely.(Heheheh...i am not the reason for it)". My husband replied "We tend to smile more when we don't know the person much". Might be true. I remembered some jokes about husband and wife. The story goes like this....


1) One beautiful Sunday morning, people gathered in a local church. Suddenly at the altar, the Devil appeared! The worshipers began screaming and running for the front door, crushing each other in their efforts to escape the Devil.
Soon, everyone was evacuated from the church except for one man, who sat calmly in his place, seemingly oblivious to the fact that God’s ultimate enemy was in his presence. This confused the Devil. He walked up to the man and said, “HEY, DON’T YOU KNOW WHO I AM?” THE MAN SAID, “YES, I SURE DO.” DEVIL SAID, “WELL AREN’T YOU AFRAID OF ME?” THE MAN SAID, “NO. I AM NOT.” DEVIL WAS CONFUSED AND ASKED, “AND WHY ARE YOU NOT AFRAID OF ME?” THE MAN SAID, “WELL, I’VE BEEN MARRIED TO YOUR SISTER FOR 30 YEARS!”





2) I told him that my wife is an angel. He looked me straight in the eye and said: “You’re lucky, mine’s still alive.”


There is something called Seven Year itch. That means that after seven years of marriage many couples grow bored with marriage.Things become so routine that the thrill is gone. The exciting and once beautiful spouse becomes the person that they don’t like,can't change and can't tolerate.


To keep your marriage working keep the fire burning.Well, how to keep the fire burning?


Here are some tips





1) Don't let the routine overshadow your relationship, means there should not be anything that is routine. Be creative and try to live life differently everyday


2) Birthdays, Anniversaries etc are not only the important days. Try to make 2 days important in every month.Buy gifts for your spouse. Gifts need not be costly. Even a pen would do. Gifts are a way to say " I REMEMBERED YOU".


3) You must send him or her flowers just for the sake of sending them to express your love.


4)You must be committed to love your spouse even when you don’t like them very much, because things might change as days go by.


5)Always think of the good memories you had together and don't forget to share them.


6)Respect the other individual.Let them be in their own personal space.


7)Discuss everything with your spouse. Don't hide things.


8)Both the partners should always know money matters. Have a financial plan and work together towards the goal.


9) Even a small act of love could bring a lot of difference.Atleast once everyday try to say one kind or compliment word.


10)Try to appreciate and encourage your spouse even when they achieve something small.


11)Always try to have some time alone with the spouse everyday.


12)Go on vacation once in a while


13)Always listen to what the other person has to say.


14)Respect your inlaws and love them as you love your family


15)Never ever thing you are too old to do anything. Enjoy life as if you are a kid.


16)Always keep telling yourself that you should not back up at any time.


17)Love changes everything.Love your spouse unconditionally with all his/her flaws.Accept them as they are.When they try to change for your sake keep appreciating them every now and then


18)Always add some romance to your life.If your partner is not that type you be it. Don't expect/nag that the other person is unromantic.


19) Always be frank with your spouse,.If you dont like something tell him/her. Talk about it during your good time together.


20)Find time to call your spouse atleast once during your work.



21)Its anyway 2 different individuals and you might have a lot of differences.But when you fight, try to finish it by the end of the day and have a good sleep.Don't let the fight disturb your sleep.It will keep accumulating hatred for the other person. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.As you know Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.They are two extremely diferent thinking individuals.Every couple fights in life. Don't ever think that you are the only one who is screwed up.Try to think of ways to overcome your fights.



22)Never ever have a communication gap between you and your spouse. If you feel you have a gap the reason might be you .Try to be considerate.



23)Never both be angry at the same time



24)Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire



25)If one of you has to win an argument let it be your spouse



26)If you have to criticize do it lovingly



27)Never bring mistakes of the past



29)When you are wrong admit it



30)Never allow ego inbetween you both. Be the first one to forgive. No egos allowed in a marriage.



31)It takes two to make a quarrel and the one whos wrong does most of the talking.

Well giving tips is always easy.Following them is the most difficult part. I am also trying hard to follow these tips.Hope i will succeed one day.

I remembered another joke when i was writing this article. Its really not a joke. It has a good truth of successful marriage.



A husband comes fully drunk to the house.while parking the car in the garage he damages it and upon entering the house breaks all the cutlery in the dining table, vomits and shouts at his wife. The next day when he woke up he sees that the house is neatly done, clothes ironed, hot water ready for him, good food cooked in the table and a note saying "I love you". He was confused. he asked his son "What happened yesterday". He said what all happened and finally said "When mama was dragging you to clean you , you said "Lady leave me alone.I am married".



STAY COMMITTED- whatever be it. Thats the magical word that keeps your relationship running.



Happy married life and good luck... :)